Kissing, and I don’t mean a peck on the mouth, I mean necking, French kissing, intimate long lasting kissing. The kind of kissing that many couples did early on in the marriage.
I want to encourage you to look at kissing as a very important part of a relationship. It is closeness, it is the intimacy between two people that keeps the sexual desire alive for each other.
What happens when the kissing stops? The answer is the marriage or relationship needs to be checked on. Couples often tell me that the kissing stopped about the same time the relationship did. People have often admitted that they haven’t kissed their partner intimately for years.
“Stop kissing and your marriage is over.” This very bold statement is to awaken your sexual self, your relationship and what you want and need out of the relationship you are in. Are you still lovers and best friends? Do you both need to broach the conversation about the relationship together or with a counsellor? Kissing often ends and with it the sex will eventually be once a month or often over altogether.
Kissing is one of the most important parts of a relationship. Remember the first years of your relationship; you would neck for hours! How much fun was that?! Why would you ever give that up? You don’t have to. Have a conversation, start kissing one night, and enjoy the closeness you once had. Rekindle that romance with intimate kissing.
Relationships do end, and that is very normal. One of the most common reasons that couples stay together and are no longer lovers and best friends is that they become room mates. Ask yourself: is this why you married your partner, and is this what you want from the relationship you are in today?