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 I am pleased to announce I am moving my private practice to Markham as of

 

September 1, 2015 to join Dr. C. Noble & Associates.

 

 

My Counselling hours will be 9:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m. and 4:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.

 

 

location address: 8A Centre Street, Markham, Ontario L3P 2N8

 

Telephone: 905-201-1859 ext. 3 Cell: 647-242-6068

 

 

 

 Private Insurance Accepted

 

 

                                                                          

                                                                       Workshops

 

The following workshops will be available, if you are interested please contact me to receive more information.

  

 

-Mid-Life Love

 

-How’s Your Love Life?

 

-Parenting after Separation/Divorce

 

-Parenting Your Teenager

 

-Infidelity

 

Separated in Your Marriage? How to Reconnect 

 

 

 

Separation & Divorce Self-Help Group will commence on Thursday, September 10

 

at 7:30 p.m. Cost $20.00.  Group will meet every two weeks. Location: 8A Centre Street, Markham. Please RSVP on Meet-Up or my website www.angelfreedman.com

 

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Parenting After Separation/Divorce Workshop

 

 

 

 

 

Your children can continue to thrive in a happy and well-run home even if you are separated or divorced and parenting is being juggling from two households.

 

 

 

Social worker Angel Freedman’s straight-forward, practical tips and concrete advice have transformed the lives of divorced and separated parents who felt they had no resources or people they could turn to for help. Angel’s professional training and real-life experiences will help bring calm to your household and ease everyday parenting woes, including:

 

 

 

  • arranging effective family meetings;

  • creating chore charts, schedules, rule lists and setting curfew and allowance;

  • finding a parenting plan that suits you and your family so that everyone in the home feels a sense of belonging and worth.

     

    About Angel Freedman | B.S.W, RSW

     

    Angel Freedman is a York Region-based Social Worker with a private practice in counselling individuals, couples, children, youth and families. Her extensive professional training and practical experience, enhanced by her own life experience and sense of humour, deliver workshops that are both illuminating and enjoyable. 

     

    Date & Time:

    Wednesday, July 8, 2015

    7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.

     

    Location: Lebovic Campus – Meeting Room B

    9600 Bathurst St. Vaughan

     

    Tickets: $40.00

     

    For more information and tickets please contact;

    905-780-8119 or 647-242-6068   angelfreedman@rogers.com

     

 

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Cellular phones have become a tool to use in the moments of anger, rage and sadness at any time, day or night to either write your ex-spouse and or receive messages from them.  More times than not the messages are not kind, and often quite vicious.  Why? For what purpose?

How many of you who are separated and/or divorced have copied messages from your ex-spouse and handed it over to your lawyer?

I want to discuss the innate desire to pick up your cellular phone and write emails and text messages full of pure “hate mail” rather than an “email” to the father or mother of your children, your first love and the person you exchanged vows with.  The fact of the matter is your relationship ended, writing messages of pure viciousness is nor healthy or a tool to self-care.

One of the worst devices in separation/divorce today is our telephones.  We look at them all day at work, while we are travelling and often when we are supposed to be sleeping.  Waiting, yes waiting for a message from a person that you are supposedly not married to any longer.  It can be defined as an addiction, the message comes in, your adrenaline starts and without even thinking you start typing.  You type, often not even reading what you wrote and press send.  Then out of pure anger (fear) you then send it to your lawyer and anyone else that will listen.  That one text/hate mail just cost a lot of money in legal fees because you are hurting, frustrated and angry.

How are you taking care of your emotions?  Are you using your cellular phone to heal a very traumatic time in your life? 

Separation and divorce is a very different type of trauma, the person was someone that you spent 365 days a year with and usually over ten years of your life or longer. 

I am often asked how long it takes to heal/grieve a separation/divorce and my reply is always at least three years or more.  If you choose counselling and working on your feelings, you can find the peace you are seeking. 

Let’s put cellular phones away, they are not a tool to heal a separation/divorce. 

Lawyers are about the law and health care professionals are about the journey to healing and grieving the emotions.

You are worth it. 

Angel Freedman B.S.W RSW

Individual, Family and Relationship Counsellor

Parenting Educator

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Holidays can be stressful enough and when you add in that your relationship has ended or is ending, you may be feeling rather overwhelmed. Many people choose not to separate during the holiday season, to keep the “status quo” during the holidays. This is very difficult for the separating couple because they now have a secret as they sit down with family. Couples are unsure what to do and feel sad, but want to ensure that others are not burdened with their news.

It is very important to self-care during the holiday season, especially if it is your first holiday without your spouse. If you have made your family aware that you are separating this allows you to let the people that love you know that you may not want to discuss the separation on that day or evening. Surround yourself with safe and caring family and friends. Create a new tradition, perhaps a new Christmas ornament or a new Menorah for Chanukah. Journal how you are feeling, call a friend that will listen, and remember one day at a time. Recite the serenity prayer.

Did you know that January is “divorce month”? Many couples feel that when the holidays are over and the stress of the holidays has subsided, it is time to be honest about their relationship to everyone including their partner/spouse.

The Separation and Divorce Self-Help Group is meeting on Monday, December 22 at 7:30 p.m. For more information www.angelfreedman.com

We will be discussing how to survive the holidays and ways to self-care. Be gentle with yourself and remember that you are not alone. Separation and divorce is a traumatic time in a person’s life. We will be discussing ways to start the healing process.

Warmly,

Angel
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Separation & Divorce is Normal

If half of society is ending relationships through separation and divorce, does that not mean that, separation and divorce is “normal”?

After facilitating the Separation and Divorce Self-Help Group of York Region for the past four years and working with individuals, families and children who are going through separation and divorce I believe it is time to look at separation and divorce as “normal”

It is time to stop whispering that you are separated and/or divorced, it is time for all of us to accept that people who are in a committed relationships no matter, five, ten or twenty years long has come to an end for one reason or another.

If we start to normalize separation and divorce people may start to become aware and start looking at their relationships before the end becomes “high conflict” and high priced.

Separation and divorce is not a death, it is a break up of a relationship that simply does not function with civility, respect and love.

The question is, why don’t we accept the facts, that separation and divorce is normal? I understand that failure, disappointment and guilt starts to take over and the road ahead looks grim and uncertain. The fact of the matter is separation and divorce is a very sad and traumatic time in a persons’ life. How to deal with it is what needs to happen next.

In the Separation and Divorce Self-Help Group of York Region we discuss tools to grieve this time in a person’s life.


Angel Freedman, BSW RSW

Social Worker

Individual, Couple and Family Counsellor

Specializing in Separation & Divorce

www.angelfreedman.com

angelfreedman@rogers.com
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